Why Couples Therapy?
Your friends and family consider you a "power couple." They admire your relationship because you're successful, social, and completely in love. What they don't see is how you and your partner seem to be drifting apart. And when you do spend time together, little disagreements turn into huge fights. How do you balance meeting each others' needs and your own expectations? What if you could reconnect to each other instead of focusing on all the other things filling up your life?
Most often, I see couples who want to work at their relationship, but get frustrated that their ideas keep backfiring. One person is feeling disappointed, and the other feels like they get no credit for trying. You accuse each other of controlling the relationship. You're resentful that you overlooked those early "red flags," or you're still hurt from an old disagreement. You're not sure if you can make it work - or if you even want to.
How Couples Counseling Can Help
I offer relationship counseling for people at any stage of their relationship, in addition to marriage counseling and pre-marital counseling. I use Gottman Method couples therapy in my work. This research-based approach helps couples build on their strengths and practice acceptance of themselves and each other. Couples therapy isn't about changing yourself or your partner - it's about learning to navigate conflict in a way that is meaningful for each of you. Yes, this can be uncomfortable, but the relief and reconnection that comes afterward is definitely worth it. Couples therapy can be a great way to work through your communication and behavior patterns with a neutral person in the room. It's not about "who's right and who's wrong," but about truly understanding yourself and each other, so that you don't continue to repeat the same disagreements.
Prospect Therapy is an affirming practice that welcomes couples of all genders and orientations, including lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, and nonbinary folks. I am a queer therapist and have been working with the LGBTQ+ community since 2011. I recognize the impact that internalized homo/bi/transphobia and heterosexism can have on queer relationships and help couples work through their issues without ignoring or pathologizing their sexual orientation or gender identity.
Couples sessions are 75 minutes, and appointments are available evenings and weekends. I see mostly couples from Long Beach, Seal Beach and surrounding areas.
Contact me for a free consultation and to schedule an appointment here, or call (562) 704-4736 to reach me directly.