First-generation Americans are the first in their family to be born and raised in the US. We didn't end up here by accident. In many cases, our parents endured dangerous, expensive, and circuitous journeys to make sure we'd be able to grow up in the States.
Although we have rich cultural heritage, in some ways, our family's history starts with us.
Are you the "black sheep" of your family?
You may feel conflicting feelings of gratitude and obligation for the sacrifices your parents made.
Typical American rites of passage into adulthood may start to feel like disloyalty to your family, your culture, and somehow, your entire country.
College. Career. Dating. Marriage. Independence. Tradition. These hold specific meanings for you.
You start to feel like a foreigner to your family. And are reminded of your otherness among your peers.
Why a culturally affirming therapist?
One of the trickiest things about getting help is making sure the person "gets" you. That's why we go to our friends and family first - we don't have to explain everything!
But if you need more help than they can give, you want a therapist who understands where you're coming from (literally).
You don't want your culture to be "diagnosed" as a problem. You don't want to spend your therapy sessions explaining your family context to your therapist. You just need to vent about how you feel like no matter what you do, it's not right.
I specialize in helping individuals and couples negotiate boundaries between their original family and their chosen family. This is even more complex for inter-cultural and interracial couples.
Are you one of the only people in your family to come out as LGBTQ+, or to partner with someone outside of your culture? Do your parents deny your sexual orientation or gender identity?
Did you decide on a "forbidden" career path?
Is this just one more way you have "disappointed" your parents?
Do you decide to follow your own choices or meet your parents' expectations? Do you have to choose?
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I was born and raised in Los Angeles, but my family is from Afghanistan. I especially welcome my South Asian and East Asian American neighbors! For those interested, I have familiarity with Islam and Muslim culture but am not a religious therapist.
If you're feeling like you're a constant "disappointment" to your family, even though you're actually doing pretty well, let's talk about it!
Call me for a free consultation at (562) 704-4736 or to schedule an appointment here. Prospect Therapy welcomes individuals and couples of all genders and orientations in Long Beach, Seal Beach, and surrounding areas.