Allow yourself to expand.
As a child of Southeast Asian immigrants, I grew up with stories about pain, hope and perseverance. I also grew up with the effects of having limited resources and the chronic feeling of "catching up.”
I got used to existing in what feels like an in-between space, where I felt like an “other” everywhere I went.
It has taken some time and many uncomfortable moments, but I've come to learn to accept the complexity of having multiple truths exist at once, and how to work alongside uncertainty rather than against it.
The pandemic surfaced a lot of deep-seated issues in some of the most grounded relationships in my life.
I learned that when people face conflicts as a unit rather than enemies, the relationship deepens and pain subsides. This is what I bring to my work with my clients. Having someone on your side to face whatever demons you’re battling can mean the difference between living and thriving.
What is therapy with me like?
There’s a song lyric from one of my favorite shows, Steven Universe, that makes me think about how I approach therapy - “Hey you, show me that solvable problem. We can get through this. I’ll do the hardest part with you.” I strive, with all my humanness, to be present, curious, compassionate and committed in this process. Therapy is a space for exploration. I want to be present to sort through those quiet conflicts that sometimes feel too scary to say out loud. Without judgement. Without expectation. To support you in practicing how to figure the next step, to take the leap that feels too hard to take, so it’s easier for you to practice taking that leap outside the therapy space too. I will show up as human. I will be imperfect. I will say the wrong thing, catch myself when I do and commit to doing better. I have found tenderness for my humanity and I want to extend that to you.
I always feel a sense of awe when my clients see themselves just a little more clearly. Finding the words for what seems inexplicable and when those words are found, knowing that this experience is not singular. There are so many people who share this piece of humanness with you across time.
Seeing someone allow themselves to feel what has been so hard to feel, then seeing their relief afterwards. When, after working for some time, hearing someone speak to themselves with patience, responsibility and care. In the biggest picture, my favorite part of therapy is that I have the privilege and honor to be welcomed into people’s inner worlds. That I am allowed to be part of others’ processes to better understand themselves and others.
Arrive as you are. We can figure out the rest together.
When I’m not doing therapy, I’m interested in poetry, reading, writing, cooking, anything food related, listening to music, mindful walks, spending mornings in coffee shops, laughing with friends.
Also, I can spend hours talking about kitchen appliances.
Who are my people?
First-generation and immigrant communities. Adult children of immigrants. Those of us who feel we are stuck between two cultures, and letting down ourselves and our loved ones in the midst of it. I believe we can find our own way while finding a connection to our past.
Anyone who feels like an outsider because of their gender, sexuality, or relationship structure. I believe we can create life on our own terms but only if we have models and affirming support.
Young adults who have tried everything to manage their anxiety and improve their self-esteem but feel like they still can’t get out of their own way. I believe that therapy can convince you of your own gifts until you can see them for yourself.
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The details
Licensed Clinical Social Worker LCSW #121531
Training and specializations including:
Affirming therapy for gender and sexuality minorities
Assessing and Managing Suicide Risk for Outpatient Professionals presented by Zero Suicide Institute
Emotionally Focused Therapy with Sue Johnson, Ed.D.: On Target Couple Interventions in the Age of Attachment
Gottman Method Couples Therapy
Somatic Embodiment and Regulation Strategies
Trauma Focused Cognitive Behavioral Therapy
Cognitive Processing Therapy
B.A. in Psychology and Gender Studies from UCLA
MSW with distinction from CSUN